India, Sept. 17 -- People who subscribe to conventional ideas of love might fantasise about finding 'the one' or having a grand wedding. In your life or in your conversations with other polyamorous people, is there something analogous, say, a kind of romantic milestone to aspire to?

Many polyamorous people reject the idea of a linear progression in relationships. In a hetero monoamorous world, boy meets girl, falls in love, and after a couple of good and bad relationships, one sticks, culminating in marriage. Once you're on this relationship escalator, it's hard to get off, at least without getting hurt. These milestones are pre-decided; people don't get to make sense of or create them.

In polyamory, you might have multiple relationship...