Srinagar, April 8 -- We often read in holy scriptures or hear in lectures that your children are a trial for you. Nobody ever explains this and probably none of us think of it beyond a certain point. Probably, because we were never taught to ponder over the holy book and instructed just to keep reading it without comprehension. That there is no good deed written for you when you readtafseerinstead of the text. Why it is said so? Is it because they are going to be defiant? Headstrong teenagers who will not listen to their parents anymore? Prefer friends over family? Bring you shame by asking difficult questions? Holding stronger opinions than our society can digest? Act out?

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