Kuala Lampur, Feb. 19 -- Very few Chinese folks will say this out loud but during Chinese New Year, there's one thing which will scare the living horse lights out of us i.e. the 20 questions relatives ask during gatherings: "Your school results how?" "You director in your office already ah?" "When you two getting married?" "How come no children yet?" "Why no sons?", ad infinitum.

Festivities are wonderful but I guess being interrogated on some of the personal aspects and decisions in one's life in the middle of one's entire clan can be daunting.

Asking about each other's lives - especially after having been apart for a year or so - is no doubt a part of what it means to be family.

In the best-case scenarios, it's not so much "20 questi...