Tanzania, April 6 -- A man's ego is very important to him. Destroying it at some irreparable level, therefore, becomes the target and obsession of most women.

The mangling of a man's ego is faster when a man has his hands outstretched all the time. Even the woman's relatives will be kept posted and form a picture of an emasculated man!

Therefore, the stuff about male machismo (known as mfumo dume in Kiswahili) sometimes makes sense to me when some men decide to view their lives through the societal prism and gauge themselves against other men.

To be seen as politically and socially right persons, some men have stooped to some weak level and become sissy. Their women take the place of their mothers. I'm not hinting at men becoming misog...