United Kingdom, March 28 -- Selena Gomez's fiance Benny Blanco "wrote a list" of "all the things" he wanted from a future wife.

The 37-year-old music producer has been engaged to the singer/actress since last year, but he struggled with dating prior to striking up his romance with Selena and he worked with a therapist who helped him put pen to paper to name all the attributes he was looking for in a partner.

During an appearance on the 'On Purpose with Jay Shetty' podcast, Benny explained: "Before I met her, I was a guy in L.A. trying to find the one for me and I was having some trouble. I think I was maybe not looking in all the right places ...

"I was like OK, it's time to be a grown up, I want to start a life, I want to have a famil...