'Arhaan gets his sense of discipline from me'
India, May 2 -- It has been 'wow'. That's exactly how I would say it. For me, it's been like a Hindi movie for over 30 years. There's been a little bit of everything - fun, sadness, highs, lows, heartbreak, love, personal upheavals, and professional highs. One has experienced a little of all in these 30 years of being in the business, and it's been amazing. I have loved every moment and look forward to the next 30 years.
I think I am different. I didn't want to do what everybody is doing; I didn't want to be put into a box. Somewhere, I just felt maybe I needed to pivot and do something different. I was very lucky to get some amazing offers. People kept asking me why was I not doing them, but I was never really drawn or attracted to it. But I have always said 'never say never'. Maybe one day I just might turn around and say, 'I want to do this. Maybe this is my calling.' Somewhere, I was happy doing what I did. Back then, I wasn't sure I had the bandwidth to carry an entire film, and being part of something impactful felt amazing. Maybe a part of me chose the easier path, but over time, I realised this is what I truly enjoyed.
I would like to say I have the last laugh. People may have an opinion, or they may want to ridicule or pull you down about something. But with all the good, there comes bad. There's so much love and appreciation, which balances things out. At the end of the day, I am the one who sits and has the last laugh.
Well, I could just sit back and say, 'I've had fun, I've been blessed to have that kind of career, and I am financially secure, so I don't need to do anything beyond that.' I could put my feet up and say that's that, but I am not that person. I am greedy and hungry when it comes to work and opportunities. I feel all these opportunities have been given to me, and it is important for me to make the most of it. At some point, I didn't realise that this was the path I was going to go down. I realised, why not throw myself into the deep end? Right from my first venture in collaboration for fashion, and now, a lot has happened. Each one has been a stepping stone.
I think it's his sense of discipline and work ethic. When it comes to the way he leads his life, he's very disciplined, he's conscious and has a certain work ethic - always be on time and do things, which I think he's got from me.
I have said this dozens of times: you don't just take it with a pinch of salt, take it with a handful of salt. It is a platform. You are there, and it's very simple. Either you choose to stay away from it, or you strike a balance. For me, I keep things out that I don't need to engage with. I use social media purely as something that is good in terms of our work. At the same time, you use it in the right proportion, where you put out however much you want, and people get that much glimpse into your life. Enjoy it, have fun with it, and leave it at that. Don't take it too seriously or get too bogged down by it. Don't let it govern your life. You have to draw these lines somewhere, and then you are good.
Family, goes without saying. The girls that we hang out with, they are a phone call away, literally. They are a call away, and I know they will all be there. We stand up for each other and are each other's support system. There are days where we don't even connect; we may not talk, but we'll always be there for each other.
I've grown up on a staple of Amitabh Bachchan's films. I have loved his films during my growing-up years, and we keep watching them over and over again. Then, of course, I have always been a Shah Rukh Khan fan. I love his cinema. As you go along, there are so many others who do amazing work and are brilliant actors. But these are the ones I have always been a fan of.
Being resilient or being able to build a solid inside (inner self) takes a while; it doesn't happen overnight. There are numerous instances that push you against the wall, where you feel there is no way out. But then you work on yourself. You get strong physically and mentally, and I continue to do that because that's part of life and learning. There are days where I feel completely bogged down, but I also then dig into my reserves, which are pretty strong, which help me tide over difficult times. If I have to say something, I would always tell people to listen to their body. It may sound silly, but love yourself. As women, we always feel so pressured about so many things. If you are working, there's always a section of society that will make you feel what you are doing is not good and will tell you, 'Who's at home taking care of the kids?' If you look a certain way, they'll be like, 'Isn't it time for her to give up?' There's always something to justify, always a system pushing back. So I just want to say: love yourself....
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