Tanzania, April 27 -- The tug of war also known as tug o' war is a sport that pits two teams against each other in a test of strength: teams pull on opposite ends of the rope.

The conflicts in our relationships often become a tug-of-war game. Who's right? Who's wrong? It yields competition or fights and takes us away from the intimacy and growth we desire. We therefore need:

Capacity to handle arguments: You can win all arguments, but if your friend is not happy, you'll never be happy. In marriage, you win together and lose together; marriage is a team.

Once there's more than one person in the equation, team dynamics must be followed. The danger of being too opinionated or strong-willed is that you'll not enjoy your relationship.

Nick...